5 Language Patterns To Avoid!

If you're feeling like life is a struggle
or that you've been dealt a poor hand,
then pay special attention to this next
series of posts!

Your linguistic patterns and metaphors
(the way you talk to yourself and others)
play a huge part in your life experience.

Certain language patterns are a sure-
fire way to return yourself to a less
resourceful experience of life. They
can surface during challenging times,
and keep us in a rut.

Since how you talk about your past
and present experience reinforces
its effect on you, the more conscious
you become of the language you're
using, the more power you will have
to shape your life the way you want it.

Awareness of the patterns is the first
step to changing them, so start paying
attention to how often the following
language patterns (offered by Dr.
Donny Epstein) show up for you:

1. Generalizing occurrence, size or
effort to avoid pain.

Example: "I've given him/her everything!"
"I've tried everything!", This always
happens to me!", "Good things never
happen to me!"

2. Needing to prove someone else is
wrong, you are right, it isn't your fault,
or that you had or have no options.

Example: "He told me to take the
medicine.", I had to have the surgery.",

3. Using significant situation, intensity
or urgency as proof that you had no
option at the time.

Example: "I had to be rushed to the
hospital because of...", "I have _____
(fill in the blank with a diagnosis", "I
was an alcoholic."

4. Locating the cause of pain or
suffering outside yourself.

Example: "I was born this way.",
It was because of _____ (fill in
the blank with some person who
is not here to respond to the claim).

5. Showing how hard you have been
working or struggling to demonstrate
that you are OK having a gap between
where you are and where you want to
be.

Example: "I have been on a healing
path for the past 20 years.", "I have
been struggling with my history.", I
have been struggling with depression."

Notice how you felt as you read these
statements. Did you feel empowered
or like a victim? Share your comments,
and look for 5 more Linguistic Patterns
To Avoid in the next post (Don't worry,
we'll get to the empowering linguistic
patterns soon!)

Dr. John

The Tattoo Vs. The Entrainment...

A while back a wise client of mine
told me why it is often hard
for people to share their Network
Chiropractic experience with others.

He said, "John, think about a tattoo.
A tattoo sells itself over and over to
people who think tattoos are cool. That's
because a tattoo can be touched and
examined right there on someone's arm.

A Network session, on the other hand
is intangible. It is an experience
that one has deep inside, and stories
about deep experiences don't spread
easily because there's no 'thing' to
talk about!"

No "thing" = Nothing. Interesting I
thought.

When there's no "thing" to talk about,
what does one say?

I got to wondering, "How would you
put your Network experience into words?"
and how few words could you use to
describe the experience?

So during July were having a fun contest:
The practice member who describes their
experience at The Well Being Center in the
most powerful way, using the least words
will win a very special gift!

You can enter by posting a comment to the
blog, sending us an email or dropping off a
handwritten message. By entering you agree
to allow your description to be shared with
others.

By the way, you can now gift your friends
and family with an extraordinary discount
on introductory visits at The Well Being
Center through our new Wellness Ambassador
program! This is a great way to help people
you love reduce stress and end pain. Just
ask for details at the front desk!

Dr. John